Are there tensions within your family?
Do you feel like you’re not being heard?
Are there significant underlying issues between your family members that need to be addressed?
Or are intergenerational differences making it hard to connect?
Even if you all grew up in the same household, you and your family members can be very different people. Large age gaps, natural differences in personalities, contrasting values or beliefs, and much more can lead to conflicts at home between loved ones.
And with even more young people continuing to live in their family home after they reach adulthood, more and more families (over 18% of the US population) are now living in “multi-generational” homes. In these families, people of very different ages and generations have to learn to co-exist.
Each of these challenges and living arrangements can result in disagreements, disengagement, and even serious conflict.
You can improve your relationships, creating authentic communication and respect to begin to heal past or current emotional wounds. You and each member of your family could feel validated, heard, and better understood.
So if these sound like you…
– There is a lack of honest or respectful communication within the family
– You feel disconnected, angry, or upset about family members’ behaviors
– You or other family members feel isolated and alone
– There are feelings of judgement or dismissive acts
– You’d like each member to better understand others’ opinions and thoughts
– You’d love to strengthen family bonds and build self-esteem
– You each genuinely want to respectfully resolve conflict and improve your relationships
…Then family counseling may offer the ideal path. Whether aimed at addressing small issues or dealing with potentially relationship-breaking challenges, family therapy can help each person feel valued and connected to the rest of their family unit.
Family counseling also offers evidence-based, compassionate support when coping with changes to the family unit due to divorce, blending families, children leaving home, or death.
In our practice we provide a non-judgmental, supportive environment to meet your family’s needs. We combined evidence-based techniques and therapies to foster confidence, openness, and respect, and help your family work together to improve relationships with each other and themselves.
By encouraging honest, empathetic communication and implementing family friendly strategies that aid hearing, healing, and greater clarity, family counseling becomes an empowering process.
We can provide you with the right tools, appropriate approaches and healthy insights. Client frustrations often ease or disappear, problems become manageable, validation and openness increases, and healthy communication paves the way for calmer, happier relationships and a healthy way forward.
Parenting classes are offered periodically throughout the year for parents of children under 8yo. These classes teach positive parenting skills to help parents learn to manage difficult and undesirable behavior and gain greater pleasure in their relationships with their children. All skills are rooted in attachment theory as well as behaviorism. Brain development research is also incorporated in to the classes and parents have an opportunity to learn several approaches to nurturing their child’s social/emotional development. Please contact Cara for upcoming dates.
Material taught is from the evidenced based approaches from Parent Child Interaction Therapy, the Incredible Years and the work of Dr. Daniel Seigel on brain development in children.
Individual, Couples and family Therapy
I offer psychotherapy in San Diego for a wide range of issues, among them:
- Pregnancy and parenting
- Cancer care
- Early childhood
- Parent/child attachment
- Person’s in relationship with somebody with a personality disorder (survivors of gaslighting, verbal/emotional abuse, etc.)
- High conflict relationships
- Divorcing families
- Children of divorce
Early childhood and Family Therapy
Working with children birth to 5 years old and their families is a wonderful way to support children and their parents in developing a healthy and strong attachment, support the child’s social/emotional development and promote overall well-being so that your little ones can grow into healthy older kids and young adults.
Therapy with a very young child is provided in the context of the parent/child relationship. Most sessions are with the child and one or both parent(s), at times, the entire family and, if the child is old enough, with the child alone. Therapy is provided through play-based modalities and parents are taught to enter their young child’s world, understand their developmental needs, and use supportive parenting skills to nurture the child’s emotional development and enhance the parent/child attachment bond.
Common situations that bring families to therapy are separation and divorce, addition of a new child or loss of a family member, significant changes in a child’ life, behavior difficulties, or issues around developmental changes/challenges to name a few.
Parenting Support and Education
We all know that parenthood doesn’t come with a manual and learning to drive a car requires more classes and tests than raising a human. Being a ‘good’ parent means being ‘good enough’ most of the time. Don’t kid yourself, you will never be perfect and 100% all the time. Parents want to be the best parent they can be and often feel they fall short because they don’t know what to do when things get tough.
In parenting therapy you will learn to develop a parenting plan and become a strategic parent using positive parenting skills that nurture your child’s development and allow you and your partner (and other care providers) be on the same page. You will also learn how to enter your ‘child’s world’ and gain greater insight into their experiences, thoughts and feelings which will in turn, help you manage your child’s behavior and support their needs.
Counseling with Older Children
Did you know that a child’s brain is not fully developed until around age 25! This impacts how they think, feel and act. Even though your child may look like a young adult, brain wise, they are still an adolescent and the adolescent brain needs help learning how to manage all those wonderful and difficult feelings that come with growing up.
Even pre-teens and teens need someone besides their parents and best friends to talk to at times. Sometimes they just need a little extra support and other times they may be experiencing clinical depression, anxiety or another mental health condition. Sadly, even children are at risk for suicide. Accessing good mental health care is needed to support your child’s well-being if they are struggling with difficult emotions and may even save their life.
If you’d like us to show you how counseling could help your family find new peace, please contact us today for an appointment.